Being depressed sucks...

[Kazutaka]

Cheer up OzzieArcane, you are very young yet. I have been on both sides of the bridge so to speak, lonely and wanting to be in "love" working up the nerve to ask someone out and it not working out. But I just got out of a very long term relationship with someone that I loved very much and I am VERY DEPRESSED at the moment. Having been on both sides of the question I wish I would have stayed on the "I am fine all by myself side". Its no fun picking up the pieces of your heart or your life after things have fallen apart.
Just wait for it. You will meet someone one day that will be right for you. Just enjoy for now the time that you have for yourself.

[OmniStrata]

I'm 22, I've never had the guts to ask a girl out before. I've always been kind of shy around girls unless I knew they liked anime cause well then I had something I could talk about with them and know they wouldn't look at me like I'm nuts. Recently I met a girl who I liked more then any girl I'd ever met before... she was kinda young compaired to me but anyhow... I asked her. The first girl I ever asked out and let's just say it didn't go well... and the worst thing is she works at the same place as me...

^_^ Go play with an animal, a kitten, or even a dog will do it (and you all keep your pervy sexual comments away from this - I'm serious here ). If you don't have any pets, go find one and just sit with it for a while and forget about the problems you have with people (especially relationship problems). If you manage to laugh, at least once, you can look at the problem better, without getting so down about it.

First, you're 22 and you're a guy. If you're looking for a serious relationship (and not just - I knocked her up so we got married), it's a little early to be giving up. The best long-term relationships that don't revolve around early pregnancy usually sit around men in their early thirties and women in their late twenties. You're far too young to be worrying about lifetime loneliness. If you just want someone to have sex with, that's another matter altogether - check the bars and you'll find that. It sounds like you're pressured because of the old 'guys start dating in highschool and fucking in grade school' deal. That's shit, and everybody knows it. What you need is more female friends. Don't be so worried about asking girls out - just get used to hanging out with girls.

You already have the right approach - find someone with the same interests, someone you have something to talk about with. If anime is a common interest, then great, if not you may either have to extend your search or find new things you can talk about. Get yourself some girlfriends (non-sexual) and get more comfortable. If you can talk to a girl and listen to her gripe about pms with a straight face, you shouldn't have much trouble asking a girl out. And that old rule about 'not dating your friends' is more for the highschool crowd, and people who were little children together. Dating a girl you just met, or someone you see occassionally but don't talk to isn't going to keep you from being lonely. Yeah, you might be occupied for a few weeks, but chances are it'll be over pretty quick. Go for the long haul and you'll get much better results.

In the meantime, don't think so much! You don't have to be married by the age of twenty, and a lot of girls these days don't want to be pregnant before they graduate (high school *or* college). There's no need to rush and get worried about the future. All that'll do is get you all mopy and depressed even more - and believe me, if you're having trouble getting a girl now, it'll be even harder if you're slouching around feeling sorry for yourself. ^_^;; Some will give you a shoulder to cry on, but most prefer the guys who enjoy their lives and don't worry about the future. Think about something else, start a project, distract yourself, and make friends with your coworker. If you really liked her enough to ask her out, don't let your discomfort keep you away. Show her that you're okay by being cool with her - it *is* possible to be friends after embarrassing incidents - just don't take it too seriously. And don't be afraid of rejection. If you don't worry so much about asking a girl out that it becomes a 'life or death matter,' then it won't hurt if it doesn't work out, and you'll get better at it, more at ease.

Yeah, just take it easy and don't worry so much. You make me feel old. ^_^;;

dude, I'm 22...
/me salutes Arigatomyna

I frown on these poor "men" who think you MUST HAVE SEX AND BE MARRIED TO YOUR GIRLFRIEND BEFORE YOU'RE OLD ENOUGH TO THINK NORMALLY...

I'm working, studying, amv editing, writing, drawing, and hell, just living. There's always hentai... Seriously though, she's right, 22 is both getting old and not... I'm no longer as "quick" as I use to be in my teenage years. Ah, the good old days...

[klinky]

Alot of people die in their early fifties. Sometimes even their late 40s. Most people also start losing attractiveness in their late 20s and mid-late thirties. For women, it starts happening later in the 30s. For guys, around 26, your hair can start to fall out and by 30 you'll be pretty damn bald.



YOU'VE ALREADY WASTED HALF YOUR LIFE ALMOST. JESUS

[klinky]

working, studying, amv editing, writing, drawing, and hell, just living


Yeah, one problem. I've been doing that ALL my life already. It gets old. I've been thinking about sexor for a long time. I want el sexor. I shall get el sexor ^_^. Also some people mature quicker than others. Wanting a lasting meaningful realationship is not a crime.


~klinky

[Otohiko]

I think I'll die by age 30. That's my prediction.

On the bright side, I still probably have a few years for quality sightseeing.

[fyrtenheimer]

Alot of people die in their early fifties. Sometimes even their late 40s. Most people also start losing attractiveness in their late 20s and mid-late thirties. For women, it starts happening later in the 30s. For guys, around 26, your hair can start to fall out and by 30 you'll be pretty damn bald.



YOU'VE ALREADY WASTED HALF YOUR LIFE ALMOST. JESUS

lose their attractiveness?

What the hell? ha, that's pretty funny coming from you

oink

[CheeseBeFriend]

I'v never been depressed before in my life before now. and I have to say it sucks. I have almost no desire whatsever to do anything aside from eat and sleep. In fact I'm not even sure why I'm typing this...

hey ozzie! This is the best kind of advice!



seriously, it rocks.

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You BASTARD THATS MY PICTURE

[Lyrs]

haha!

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[OzzieArcane]

I'm surprised so many people tried to cheer me up when I'm relatively knew to the forums. Thanks guys. I also found out I might still have a chance with the girl I like. It'll be a long story to explain it in detail to you all. I'll tell you about it when I know for sure what is going on.

[Toecutter]

Well, I've had pretty much the same problem. Imagine, I must be the only college student who hasn't had a drink, hasn't smoked (cigarettes or weed), hasn't had sex, all by my own free will (that, and the fact I had absolutely no idea where the hell the parties were going on!). You know how difficult it is to a couple decent people to do stuff, other than watch 3 day straight anime marathons?

I only have one friend left now (a guy I met back in high school), because I manage to scare the shit out of everyone else. My friend and I are pretty much in the same boat, because there aren't any chicks in the local area who aren't taken, and those sluts who sleep around who aren't taken aren't very enthusiastic about guns and cars.

Where the hell do people my age (20) go to pick up chicks interested in anime and guns?