The Vent Thread

[Kitsuner]

I turned off my phone during the film shoot, and now it won't turn back on.

Okay, so it's been on this whole time, but the damn keyboard is completely kaput. I have a text sitting on my phone that I can't access, and it pisses me off.

[Chained(E)Studio]

Not a vent particularly,

Im just really upset right now, and I feel like the one person I need isn't there or that he just doesn't care. Being in long distance relationships are hard especially when one lives in Hawaii, and the other in Canada. Its even worse if you've been on a rocky way for a while, then have two really bad days then a day where its like the other half just doesn't care or isn't there. I love him a lot, and I'm hurting a lot too. I wish things could be easier and I could just move or he would just move so we didn't have to sit here waiting day after day. Letting things get worse because of our situations. Or maybe if he would wake up and see I need more than just a vc, maybe rather than me always talking indepth, he could too. Eventhough its not really him, it still. Its me, you love me. Be there and give me support as I trying for you. Don't ignore me, or think me as being ignorant.

Relationships hurt and are hard. My mom has always told me, that you must fight in order for your relationships to work. But I don't want to cry, I want to smile.

Suppose, I dunno if anyone on here is going through a long-distance relationship or maybe did. Any tips to make it easier in some way?

[aesling]

Being that distant from someone will just magnify your problems, since relationships have enough pitfalls without the extra strain of being in separate locations, missing a whole other level of interaction. Skype calls with video help, and it's good to have things you can do together (watching shows, playing games, etc.). It is really easy to grow apart though, and in my experience both parties have to be really committed to a long-distance relationship to make it work over the long term, which at this point it doesn't really sound like your boyfriend is. Some people just aren't as comfortable as others in confiding the details of their hearts to others, but if he thinks of you as ignorant, it doesn't really sound like he respects you. Granted, I have extremely limited information here, but the relationship doesn't sound equal, and equality is something you can't have a healthy relationship without. Moving is also an extremely large decision. No matter what, one person is going to have to give up a lot more than the other, and this can cause resentment, especially if things end up not working out in the end. So as much as throwing caution to the winds and having one of you move to the others' location in an effort to save things might seem like the answer, my advice would be to try and solidify your relationship first. If you can't do that, then you have to recognize that things aren't going to work out, and as much as you have to fight for your relationships, you also have to be able to recognize when trying to hang on to them becomes unhealthy. If he doesn't seem to want to be supportive of you, perhaps try asking him what's up with him. If you've already tried that and it hasn't worked, try giving him a little space. You can always hang out together on skype or whatnot and pursue your own hobbies and whatnot at the same time. It's good to be able to do your own thing while still spending time with the other person. What you should probably really do, though, is just ask him what he wants/needs instead of trying to guess. Communication is really key, especially when communication is basically all you have. What it seems to boil down to, is that you really have to start asking yourself what you want from the future, both in this and in general, and plan accordingly. Anyway, I hope this helps, and sorry if it's rambling and incoherent as I am kind of running a fever. Best of luck!

[kikai_saigono]

I went through one, I lived in Georgia/Tennessee and he (Kristyrat) lived in Canada. It's even harder when your significant other is in a different country, because that makes visits all that much more difficult.

It DOES take commitment, and determination to make it through. Like cim said, Skyping with video helps. I found that sending snail mail packages and letters helped a lot. Sure, texting by phone or chatting over skype/aim is quicker, but with mail it's more personal and you have something of that person's.

There is nothing wrong with taking a break from talking to each other (just a few days or so). There are a lot of emotions that you can't convey over the internet, even if you are skyping, because you might need to be able to be together in person and touch each other and show each other how you feel through expressions and not words. Just take a few days to have a breather and come back to tell him how you feel about his lack or attention to your feelings, and make sure to take the time to listen to him too, as it's probably not a one sided thing.

I know it's tough, believe me it's REALLLY tough. But if you love him and he loves you can make it, the anger you feel is likely frustration from not being able to see him. But once you are together, whether it be for a visit or permanent move in together, it'll make all those problems wash away, and you'll know once more why you were together

Sorry for the sappyness, but I live with my used-to-be long distance boyfriend and i luff him

[Radical_Yue]

Sorry for the sappyness, but I live with my used-to-be long distance boyfriend and i luff him

x2

I'd post something of importance, but the lovely ladies up top seem to have it covered.

[Otohiko]

Meanwhile in the woods of Canadia...

Spider venom x foot. That's one relationship I would've preferred to keep long-distance x__x

[pan_dbgt01]

I am so sick of not making into studios that I audition for and REALLY want in to!

[kikai_saigono]

I need to stop surfing etsy and ebay for things I want when I'm positively broke. Now I have 100+ tabs open and it just makes me sad to look at them. >:I

[Qyot27]

Aniplex licensed Ore no Imouto for DVD release...with no mention of Blu-ray.


In other happenings, I don't know what to expect from the doctor's appointment I have scheduled for Wednesday. It's *supposed* to simply be a consultation about what to do about the lipomas I have, but I can't stop worrying that A) they won't get removed, B) they won't remove all of the worst ones, C) they will remove them, but they won't be covered by insurance (or that only some would be covered, but not others - since some of them do cause discomfort but others are simply a psychological nuisance), D) nasty scarring after any removal that does happen. Point D probably worries me the least, since these things are relatively small, but with the amount of them I have on my arms, I dread that it would end up looking like I stuck my arms into a fan made out of straight razors. A possible point E is that they could in fact remove all of them (20 in total, 14 of which are on my forearms), and it would be totally covered by insurance, but that they couldn't get all of them removed before October 10th when my coverage ends.

[Enigma]

Father whos secretly on meds es no bueno.