This will probably be the last thread I ever start

CaTaClYsM · Post by **CaTaClYsM** » Wed May 21, 2003 1:41 pm

klinky wrote:Call Jerry=/

Or get a Shotgun and kill each and everyone one of them! Then yourself.

That's depressing.

Nah man as much as you suck, you don't deserve that to happen :/

~klinky

I'll let that one slide this time. But to comment on the part about me deserving this. I would have much rather had this happen directly to me, than my best friend. My life sucks already. It sucks a lot. But things were going great for him. His mom was cool, his dad was great, my uncle knew a thing or two about anime and was big on computers. These arent just distant relatives, these were the people that him and I were closest to. And for this to happen to HIM sucks because not only is this one of the worst things I've ever seen, but tragedy isn't exactly a part of his life. I've had my share of dead family members, minor surgeries, insane people, and brushes with the law but he hasn't.

KhayotiK · Post by **KhayotiK** » Wed May 21, 2003 4:15 pm

I understand what you and your friend are going through, my father did that exact same thing... Several times. I'm sure your friend is going to be in his own world, but like what everyone said, it's indeed imparative that you keep communication. If he is more inept at situations like this than you are, then he is more likely to try something dumb to make a quick-fix. Along with your friend and family and what-not, don't feel too bogged down yourself, keep things as light as possible and don't think that you can or have any obligation to fix things, you can supply support, but that's about it.

Veldrin · Post by **Veldrin** » Wed May 21, 2003 4:36 pm

This will probably be the last thread I ever start.

w00t! ???????

Lone Wolf · Post by **Lone Wolf** » Wed May 21, 2003 4:40 pm

no woot...

CaTaClYsM · Post by **CaTaClYsM** » Wed May 21, 2003 5:42 pm

Do people that are not prone to irational and utterly insane behavior DO things like this? They never did any drugs or anything like that. They were perfectly normal people who just decided to up and run away. I always said that people were capable of anything, but I guess I never really believed it up till now.

Lyrs · Post by **Lyrs** » Wed May 21, 2003 7:16 pm

My best advice is:

realize that sometimes you may not be able to do anything, so don't blame yourself or try to be an accomplice to heroism.

next, some people may just don't want to live together anymore. Nothing's falling apart, it already fell apart before this even happened.

and last, i admire your compassion and the feelings you are putting into this matter, but realize that most people and most kids for that matter, can't really do anything other than to be there as somebody another person can talk to.

/end

chaoticstormbringer · Post by **chaoticstormbringer** » Wed May 21, 2003 7:26 pm

Okay I am going to tell you this. Shit happens and it gets worse and worse every time. I am sorry that you had to go through that kind of shit because really it is saddening to see that you and your friends have to suffer by the cause of it. But it doesn't mean you have to give up things that is something you like ya know? Just remember that you have a life of your own and such and how you choose to live that life is entirely up to you. But truthfully, giving up is not an answer.

I have been through rough times ike that also through my life time, yes it does cut deep but give your friends and family some emotional support as well. Because if your friends and and family that were left behind can't handle it then you would probably need to be the more stronger one to help them out.

Things can be alot worse than you can imagine mate. Now I know you are thinking that I'm trying to say is shut up and move on with your life but I am not saying that. What I am saying is don't let the emotions of the environment affect what you truly enjoy doing. It is a hard road ahead of you i agree, but if you can show that you are a survivor in this tweaked reality of ours then you'll emerge out a champion.

I truly send my best wishes to you and best of luck so that you can succeed through your life. And if you do give up the org then I also wish you good luck in the future that holds you and hope that you will choose a path that will ensure that you have happiness in your life.

Okay I am now going to stop rambling on because I can go on forever about this sort of stuff. Try and be the strong one because you will be the pillar of strength when that time arrives.

SS5_Majin_Bebi · Post by **SS5_Majin_Bebi** » Wed May 21, 2003 7:29 pm

CaTaClYsM wrote:Do people that are not prone to irational and utterly insane behavior DO things like this? They never did any drugs or anything like that. They were perfectly normal people who just decided to up and run away. I always said that people were capable of anything, but I guess I never really believed it up till now.

Who knows what they think? I'm gonna give you an example of some of the shitty things I've gone through because of supposed "sensible middle aged adults" (but don't worry, Cat, I'm not tryin to take the floor here or try to play the "im worse off than you" game, ok? just an example is all.)

My dad ran away with another woman when I was like, 9 or 10 (10 years ago now) and for a few years there it was totally fucked up. My brother was only 2, and he had to grow up without a father figure. Then my mum starting dating this bloke called Trevor. My life became a game of dodging the next random (physical) blow aimed at me from that prick, and I swear if I ever meet him again I'll fucking kill him. After that (after convincing my mother to leave him) he killed my cat, and tried to get my mum to leave me AND my brother out on the streets and run away with him, thank fuck that didn't happen. So mum marry's my current stepdad, Paul. He's cool but because of the shit that went down, I can't handle having another guy around the house (like, it was like he was invading my territory or something ) so I fought day and night with him. Which is about when we all decided it'd be better for me to move away and live with my dad, and my stepmother. Big mistake. He had got this fucked up attitude whereby because she was his wife, I had no say in anything and no status in the household. It became her against me, and although me and her became great mates, it wasnt gonna work out. So I moved out (im 17 by this point) and got a place of my own, only to discover that my stepmother has fucked my father over, royally ripped him off, took most of his inheritance, and buggered off with this NZ guy named Grant, who was supposed to be dads friend. Then my girlfriend of 6 months left me for my best mate, and my life, which had been circling the drain for a bit, went straight down the plughole. So now dad is kind of.....wierd, lets just say. He's gone off on this wierd thing of "finding himself" and all this awareness crap. I'm 20 now, so all of this is still fairly recent to me. All because of 1 stupid mistake my father made 10 years ago, at least 3 people have been hurt for the best part of a decade. And I'm afraid if he finds someone else, hes going to forget about me and my brother again. My brother doesn't really know my father, and I think he regards my stepdad as more of a father than our real father, and that hurts me and my dad.
/end example

So, I'm not alien to that, and its proof that those who are old enough to know better, don't. Is it really possible to follow all those bullshit rules about thinking of other people as well, when those who teach us this don't follow those rules themselves? Anybody is capable of anything, and it seems that the decent people who try to be decent to others are always going to be left picking up the pieces left behind by those who really don't care.

Lyrs · Post by **Lyrs** » Wed May 21, 2003 7:31 pm

when you think about it, ever member probably has a family story to tell, and especially one if you don't think you have one.

/end

CaTaClYsM · Post by **CaTaClYsM** » Wed May 21, 2003 8:39 pm

Well I thought my family had seen the worst of it and things were going to go uphill.