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Re: Vent Thread

Post by CodeZTM » Mon Apr 25, 2011 12:33 pm

dj_ultima_the_great wrote: PS: oh, and here's my rant for the day, and it's aimed at you men. You know, I'm totally cool with you ignoring the fact that I'm a girl and just treating me like another guy friend. We can game together, we can complain about women (hey, mud slings in both directions), and I can be your wing(wo)man and you don't even have to worry about me cockblocking you. But for fuck's sake, don't double standard me. Don't treat me like I'm a guy friend and then get weird when we actually hang out. Don't suddenly notice I'm a chick on days that I happen to dress cuter and push me away because you're paranoid I'm coming on to you. (So sorry that I was born female and I play up that asset - and anyway, you really have the self-conceit to think I'm doing it just for you?) Either way then, I lose, and that's not only unfair, but incredibly irritating as well. I typically get along better with guys than girls because of mutual interests, but I have very few guy friends because they all turn into morons the instant we get past a casual "hello." Moreover, isn't that kind of selfish? You automatically assume that because I want to be friends that it means I'm trying to get in your pants? Grow up, guys - and you know, I wish I could just blame it on you, but we would all get along a lot better if men AND women stopped playing stupid relationship games. This screws up potential friendships for the rest of us.
See, I have this same problem, just reversed. I have a lot of "gal pals" that completely seem to forget I'm a guy until I say something about the football score, and then they get all critical about it and start talkin gabout piggish men :roll:

Moreover, I'm just frustrated with my love life. Mostly because I don't seem to have one. My biggest problem is that I'm not in it for sex or some quick term relationship to get through the valentine season. I actually try to befriend and get to know somebody before I start dating them. Sadly enough, most women I seem to meet don't want long-term relationships. >_>' That, or the accounting department is just THAT slutty. |:>

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Post by Otohiko » Mon Apr 25, 2011 12:57 pm

I'm 4 years older than you Kari, and I have my younger brother's friends marrying and having kids all over the place, forget people I knew in high school (although part of it comes with the school being Catholic...) Worse, my Russian family and relatives just CONSTANTLY bombard me with reminders of the fact that, literally, I have been single longer than anyone in my family. Only one or two people in my entire extended family didn't have kids at 27. Absolutely everyone was married at that age. So yes, I totally feel you there T__T

I used to be a lot more worked up over this issue even a year ago. Then I realized a lot of it was really down to me, but not in an unfixable sort of manner. Not all my problems were just circumstances, just some of them, and a lot of my 'missed opportunities' and subjective 'forever-alone-ness' were completely my fault. I failed to pay attention or make decisions when I needed to, because I was too absorbed either in trying to figure out whether I like someone or not, or in my own feelings of inadequacy. Hence the result.

In the past few months I've changed pretty dramatically, paying particular attention to not constantly shooting myself down and wallowing in 'forever-alone-ness'. That opened things up for me personally. Surely enough, about a month ago I even met someone that I instantly and definitely liked, and much to my own surprise I acted correctly and non-awkwardly around her - things just naturally seemed to work and I'm slightly proud of my behaviour in the situation... only problem was that she was taken ;__; That was a bummer. A real massive bummer. But ah well. It was a huge confidence booster for "next time".

Otherwise, to some extent I'm also beginning to see that maybe staying single through that period of my life was probably a good thing. For the majority of people, there is a lot of stuff going on at the time. A lot of relationships end up experimental rather than committed and definite. There's nothing tentative about the sort of thing I'm after, so... perhaps it was useful for me to go through and wrestle with my own personal (perceived) inadequacies before jumping into anything and getting hurt as a result. I don't think I would've handled it well at all and it would have really been worse for my prospects in the long term.

...but something better happen soon, or I will again start quietly raging >__>
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Re: Vent Thread

Post by CodeZTM » Mon Apr 25, 2011 4:40 pm

Gah Dammnit. More tornadoes tonight. >:/

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Post by trythil » Mon Apr 25, 2011 6:43 pm

I still have a mental block in executing dash vaults.

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Post by Pwolf » Mon Apr 25, 2011 6:53 pm

Those dash vaults are tricky... it's all in the wrist.

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Post by Jadecavy » Mon Apr 25, 2011 6:56 pm

We can all be forever alone together. Friend zoned again.

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Post by Castor Troy » Mon Apr 25, 2011 6:57 pm

CodeZTM wrote: That, or the accounting department is just THAT slutty. |:>
My accounting department's 3 times my age and has kids 2 times my age. :uhoh:
dj_ultima_the_great wrote: Grow up, guys - and you know, I wish I could just blame it on you, but we would all get along a lot better if men AND women stopped playing stupid relationship games. This screws up potential friendships for the rest of us.
I've been single since 2002 since I got sick of playing the games and losing. :?

Is there a cheat code to win?
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Re: Vent Thread

Post by trythil » Mon Apr 25, 2011 6:58 pm

Pwolf wrote:Those dash vaults are tricky... it's all in the wrist.
My wrist works again. It's the whole scissor-kick-over-the-obstacle thing that freaks me out still, despite me knowing that it's within my physical capability to do so.

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Kariudo wrote: A family friend the same age as I am is getting married this summer

That reminds me that I've been single for all but 1 day of my life so far (I thought it was closer to 3 months...but that's another story)
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Re: Vent Thread

Post by Kariudo » Mon Apr 25, 2011 7:04 pm

Castor Troy wrote:I've been single since 2002 since I got sick of playing the games and losing. :?

Is there a cheat code to win?
up up, down down, left, right, left, right, b, a, start

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Post by meleechampion » Mon Apr 25, 2011 7:36 pm

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